You know Steven Segal movies ?

There is something so very cheap about Steven Segal movies. You can't put your finger on it . The explosions are there, the leading man has an instantly recognisable name , he is well dressed, the plot and the lines are all there. He exudes cool . The sets are interesting . The rest of the cast is decent too but still , there is something tacky and cheap about a Steven Segal movie. You cant say what is is but it is. What’s the point of all this analogy ?

It’s the same thing with some guys. They have the wheels, they have the threads , they talk the talk , they sell the image but there is just some indefinable characteristic about them that does not sit well. You may not be able to put your finger on it but its the Steven Segal movie " thing " . It’s something that just won’t add up.

Look at a Bruce Willis action movie . You don’t doubt it ! You just go with it completely taken in. Then look at a Steven Segal movie it lacks that thing that would make it a Bruce Willis movie.

Some men sell it and sell it and sell it but you’re not interested. You would pass the movie , you wouldn’t pick up the DVD. You don’t want it free on your tv , it’s just a pass.

The worst thing though are the people with the Steven Segal movie "thing" asking you why ?

Why don’t you find them "Bruce Willis movie" material and how can you answer that, like it’s just that you aren’t it .

Same budget, granted.
Great story, granted.
Some grey area of something’s not there, GRANTED!

Well all the best in spotting the Steven Segal movie from the Bruce Willis movie, you really should be able to.The worst thing though is your friend walking around with a Steven Segal movie telling you how AMAZING it is! Yuck, no its not, knowing it is enough satisfaction for me.

women & the evil eye

I really am confused by women that give each other the evil eye for no reason. Why is it that it has to be so uncomfortable that we are strangers? We are at the grocery store and you give a person the one-up eye. We are passing each other in the mall and you decide to pull a face and give a person  a dirty look. I find it really very annoying and unnecessary that as women, we act so catty. It’s almost always harder to get good service from one woman to another, sadly , especially in restaurants, why is this? I can never understand the way in which people just on body language can  express so much dislike for a person they do not know. Women almost never disappoint , its strange and i find it to be a common occurrence.

I walked into a small store, two girls about my age early twenties or possibly younger than me, behind the counter it's only when people walked in after me and got a warm pleasant greeting that i got annoyed. I was at a food store, there's a girl there, doing a promotion giving people testers of some food product as i approach near her she looks at me then looks away. How are we different , why do you give other women attitude,  women are really wrong for this and i really don’t know the root cause of it all. I just have become tired of having to deal with it.

I would say, its young girls that we need to grow up but actually its not. Married women with their husbands are like always on feline mode, ready to act like wild cats with their eye. How are we to blame that we are in the same space. Why do you assume that we want your husband?  I just don’t get the logic. Why give me the evil eye when walking with your husband or whatever. How would i do anything , we are just passing in the mall, we are just sitting across from you at the restaurant. Its ridiculous, and its a woman thing because men being more logical don’t walk around giving other guys the evil eye.

The worst has to be in the ladies in front of the mirror at a public toilet. Women are like seriously looking like they could murder you. They just pull a face, and give you and eye and communicate bitter hateful body language. And they actually walk out of the bathrooms enemies, seriously sad.

I hope women stop this nonsense , it isn’t cool or deserved to be on some unreasonable mean tip.

Especially when walking into a crowd of women and you don’t know at least one of the girls there , its going to be hard. Oh to be a woman!

Lovers What Happens at the ATM ?

I'm curious this is to all the lovers, what happens at the ATM?

I understand love and deep affection and the couples that are the envy of most of us for the mere fact that they seem like two parts of one puzzle. It’s okay to share the various aspects of your lives, to enact your uninhibited public displays of affection. I am just really unable to accurately get my mind wrapped around the idea that ATM couples are acceptable.


There is the weird phenomenon for me of couples at the ATM that will go with their partners and stand there staring at the ATM machine. He punches in his pin code, you are staring, he selects a display of how much money he has, you are staring, he withdraws money, and you are staring. I mean really would it hurt you to give the poor sucker some breathing room. Is it just me? I mean that finds it weird. I really cannot get over how it makes me judgemental to see these couples being so possessive and disrespectful (or so it seems to me). It feels like an infringement of privacy.



We each separately work hard, so I don’t need to breathe heavy on someone’s neck as they take out money at the ATM nor would I appreciate the same treatment.



This may be a level of trust and love and unity that is missing on my part because i see it all the time at the ATM and it makes me give people the evil eyebrow. What happened to privacy? As couples joined at the hip do absolutely everything together!



I mean really this is an encounter i rather not get use to , some independence , some privacy , some distance , fine you have no secrets from each other but all the way to the last cent ! How annoying to be so merged into one so much so that you trust someone with your rand value. The ATM couples need to find some ground rules because I make a point to look at the ring finger on the sister, and what do you know, it’s not there! So you are not married and that’s okay with you, to escort him and eyeball his money.



ATM sisters seize and desist, please! It’s not appropriate to follow your boyfriend and stare at him when he withdraws money. Seize and desist !

Tell me something do you work harder to get a man? Or do you work harder to keep a man?

That is the difference between the singles and the ones in relationships !

See I know people that work hard to Keep a man and I see some work harder at the first bit. That is to GET a man.


My take on this is, it’s like there are some people that start with a sprint and run out of energy and abandon the race. Then there are some people that are just so powerful in the middle of the race and they just have greater longevity, they seem to get stronger as the race progresses and they have the ability to see the race through.


This is my little analogy of the singles and the ones who aren’t


Which one do you think you are ?


The thing about it is you have to look realistically at the race. Are you looking for a short, quick sprint? Sprints are good right, or are you looking for a marathon, a long hard, extremely long achievement? You have to plan your race though, make sure you’re fit, and make sure you’re prepared mentally for that particular race. Like which person just takes on a marathon on a whim ? You have to have a cause and know that you’re in the right place at that time in your life to handle all the pressure.


Some girls want the marathon/marriage and you look at them and think mmm … she should still be in training. She’s talking about the big leagues but like you being the very knowledgeable by-stander you turn up at the marathons. You cheer for them and say go for it, we wish you well! Because you know every losing team still has its supporters. That’s what friends are for ultimately. You know when it’s time to shut up and be back up and you know when to call a person out.


If you are not ready for the marathon, don’t fake it girl it’s not meant for all of us. A few sprints should get us ready for the big time marathon some day. Train at your own pace, I’m a proud sprinter and a little bit of cross country but a marathon. We can’t all claim to be ready for a marathon. Have you seen the sad injured people that try the race ill prepared ? We still kind of admire the fact that they were brave enough to take a leap of faith but we feel pity more than anything else. They didn’t train, they were not ready, their body took it hard they look horrid and exhausted and in such pain. That’s the difference between the sprinter and the marathon runners know your threshold  !

The best way to discover a man’s true character is to see how he fights

Things are always good in the beginning when the romance is good and the chemistry is high. But if you want to find out what your partner is really like see how he behaves, and notice the things he says when you are fighting. How respectful does he remain when you are at opposite ends. The true reflection of the longevity and sustainability of any relationship is how much of the ying and yang, the good and the bad of the man you are comfortable enough to deal with. Things get bad when you fight right? So look at how he fights.

• He involves his friends when we fight…

Oh no , there is nothing worse than the type of person who has to bring in his best friend or some third party into what is between two grown people. Now you are working through a mediator that has their back. I hope you like and respect his friends otherwise girl your battle is long and hard. His need to involve his rat pack probably means that there is little about your relationship they don't know. His inability to be independent of his friends will hurt you more than it will support you.

• He involves his family when we fight…

Basically you have to deal with his family thinking you’re stubborn, and family is always the worst because they now his dirty laundry but they expect you to deal with it because you’re with him. Best thing you could do is not let them run all over you, but don’t break bonds because blood is thicker than any fine water! You can never get away from family. So if that's how you plan to solve your problems make it balanced , private and planned. There are horror stories about the family meeting ambush.

• He is abusive when we fight…

I’m sorry why are you with a man that is abusing you? Get some self respect you teach a person how to treat you meaning what? Just as much as he may have issues, you need help because so do you.

• He runs to his ex when we fight…

I have heard of the backslider the one that is spotted with the ex, calls the ex, booty calls the ex and cannot understand that he makes a bad situation worse. By adding a pile of additional drama, you  can’t fix this one –leave the fight, best just move on sister.

• He goes MIA (missing in action) when we fight…

He doesn’t take your calls. He doesn’t respond to your messages. He totally avoids all contact with you. Girl you’re in trouble but the good thing is he is cooling off. I have respect for the MIA fighter because I am the MIA fighter myself, no words no actions just give the person space to continue to live without you or to reappear when they are willing to hash things out in civil manner (as much as civil is possible in fights that is)

• He stalks me when we fight…

Girl, that’s how people end up dead and on the news, get your butt as far as distant as possible. That aint love just a lot of crazy.




In as much as I don’t love fights, I love fights because they do reveal some very important areas of a person’s character. So I wish you successful discoveries from your fights in future. Now don't be telling your friends thinking they got your back about stuff that don't involve them. If you want him to be respectful enough to not be involving his friends, family and some third party in your fights do yourself a favour and don't make it girl talk with your friends not unless you want everybody involved in your business.