Cinderella may not have been the best story to hear as a child, I think this is a realisation I came upon when my girl friends and I were talking about “how come there is no prince charming in our lives?”, like some how the universe owed us all that soul mate connection. I know we are all grown ups now. We should perhaps know better but the truth of the matter is that many for us yearn for that deepest of emotions. True love is what they call it that one soul mate you feel was made to be your perfect fit. I think much of this is rooted with the influence of love stories we heard over and over again from our earliest childhood years that did after all plant the earliest seed. Which girl hasn’t heard that Cinderella story, which girl didn’t wish that romantic ending for herself how many women still hold a glimmer of hope, do you not wish, want, search for your Prince charming. A crucial learning experience about the world and ourselves took place in the pages of idealistic fairytales. In truth many of the depictions of love in fairytales, movies and songs continue to influence the kind of love we search for, yearn for, pray for, date for and continue to wear our hearts on our selves for in this modern jungle.
The message is clear in fairytales love is a beautiful experience that is greater in value then most things. Others would say it is the purpose of life. Love always has this mist of super human strength. We are all searching for a love that makes us feel super human or perhaps just super valued. In that connection we will be loved for the unique individuals we believe ourselves to be. The fairytales we heard as children continue to grow like a seed planted at the heart it wants to be fed it wants to grow it wants to prosper to bring a smile on your face for the rest of your days. So we search, going about our daily lives hoping to find the passion, the spark that cliché quick heart beat that sparkle in the eye. We want to have that fairytale ending. As I hear the complaints of my female friends I realise that we almost always end up having the same conversation. Are we perhaps not too young to be stewing over how we can’t find Mr Right? after all we earned the title young women just yesterday. Certainly women in their twenties should not be as bitter, as unhappy about the lack of good men. I look around the room and it is as though I’m surrounded by women in their fifties who have been looking for “that one guy” for years. Then I realise that there is a common ground amongst all women most of us feel that the universe owes us that perfect prince or princess ( shout out to the lesbians) to live happily ever after with. So I take my hat down to the Cinderella story for being so influential to the lives and thinking of many women whether these expectations are good or too idealistic they live near and dear to most girls hearts.
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By Lindi Khumalo
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