Tuesday, June 22, 2010

Who should you love more your man OR your friends?


It can be hard to navigate if you should love your man more than your friends or your friends more than your man. Often you are forced to make decisions that test who in actual fact you do favour more. Are you the type of girl that drops her friends when she has a man? Do you devote yourself to your man so much that you are neglectful of your friends and your commitments as a friend? Or does going out with your friends take priority over the plans you make with your man. Either way it is important to love your man and it is important to love your friends.


The way you love these separate groups is different. It is when you choose one above the other in a way that compromises your boyfriend or in a way that compromises your friendships that is when these two relationships begin to be at odds. What often jeopardises your friendships is when you stop being a good friend because you have a new man in your life. Equally it is important to understand to value your man and not to make him feel second best to your friends.


Time Manage your relationships


Time management is an essential capability that allows you to ensure that the needs of your activities and your relationships are managed effectively. These relationships need to be nurtured in a way that allows you to give the necessary attention to all your loved ones. Time management is an essential part of your world at work and effective time management between your friendships and your man is equally crucial. It is also essential to realise that talking about your man the whole time you’re with your friends will not work in your favour. The friend that does nothing but talk about her boyfriend is annoying and it can be better having no friend in comparison to this friend. Also important to note is that gossiping about your friends to your boyfriend does not equal spending quality time with your partner. Time management as a result should also include quality valuable appreciation of things that bring you closer in your relationships. If you and your friends enjoyed going to the movies together don’t suddenly blow off your friends because you’ve seen all of the movies that are out with your boyfriend. That is not cool!


When your boyfriend and girlfriends don’t get along


Do not try to force the situation it is possible for your friends to not like the person you’re dating or for your boyfriend to completely not want to spend time with your friends. It need not be a deal breaker if you are wise enough to ensure minimal tension by not constantly forcing these two separate social groups to spend time with each other unnecessarily.


So who should you love more?


Love both in different ways that allows for them to feel and see that they are being valued. Men come and go and your girlfriends can be life long companions so nurture those relationships like a precious garden. It is important to figure out a way to maintain friendships and still allow yourself to find positive and lasting relationships with men and not feel that your time with friends is preventing the attention and growth with your man. So navigate these two relationships in a way that makes your life richer instead of in a way that creates problems, rivalry and unnecessary drama in your life. Happy navigating may your life be richer in some way because of this article.

2 comments:

  1. Guy hav it right" bro's before ho's" so as lady should knw better "chomies before hubby". The frnds were there before n wil be there during and after so u should keep them happy. Hubby cn leave anytym so be careful on putting your eggs in 1 busket.

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  2. yeah lol should be careful about putting all the eggs in one basket **applause** too true !!!

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